“Always be YOURSELF
and don’t stop living YOUR life.”
You need to be the best person you can be before you can be
and do the best for someone else. The title should read, “How to be the best
wife/husband in the world”
In any relationship there needs to be respect for the other
party especially for those that choose marriage. When one person in any form of
relationship is treated with disrespect, cracks will appear and those cracks
will either fester or split wide open.
Being a good/best wife/husband doesn’t mean you have to have
the culinary skills of a Gordon Ramsey or Jamie Oliver or the cleaning skills
of The Hilton Hotels cleaning staff nor does it require the intimate knowledge and understanding of the Karma Sutra, it is
purely and simply about caring and sharing everything but also having time and
space for oneself.
When people get together there is a special chemistry and as
time goes by that magical time appears to evaporate. This happens when the
caring, sharing and communication stops or has a lapse hence, we often hear
people saying that you have to work at a relationship.
Each individual is different, each of us have different
needs, desires and dreams it is when these needs are required to change that we
lose track of who we are and become someone we are not. We lose interest in the
relationship because of these changes and we get frustrated with being in a
position where we feel trapped. If being you is all about being a top notch
cook, cleaner or both it is ok because it is who you are and what you want to
be.
Being you, also involves encouraging your partner to do the
same by empowering them to be themselves. Inspire them to be their own person
free from constraints of preconceived perceptions that one has to change to be
accepted by another. Provide opportunities to work and play together. Get
involved with their interests if they ask you to join in. Be reciprocal with
your activities asking them to share what makes you happy. Share your thoughts
and dreams and invite them to share theirs, you may be surprised to find there
are similarities that you both have.
Keep the communication channels open, listen to what is
being communicated and address whatever needs to be addressed. Love being the
person you are and love your partner for who he or she is.
The best wife/husband is the one who can say “I am
free to be me!”
Author Steve Boddey
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