“Always be YOURSELF and don’t stop living YOUR life.”
You need to be the best person you can be before you can be and do the best for someone else. The title should read, “How to be the best wife/husband in the world”
In any relationship there needs to be respect for the other party especially for those that choose marriage. When one person in any form of relationship is treated with disrespect, cracks will appear and those cracks will either fester or split wide open.
Being a good/best wife/husband doesn’t mean you have to have the culinary skills of a Gordon Ramsey or Jamie Oliver or the cleaning skills of The Hilton Hotels cleaning staff nor does it require the intimate knowledge and understanding of the Karma Sutra, it is purely and simply about caring and sharing everything but also having time and space for oneself.
When people get together there is a special chemistry and as time goes by that magical time appears to evaporate. This happens when the caring, sharing and communication stops or has a lapse hence, we often hear people saying that you have to work at a relationship.
Each individual is different, each of us have different needs, desires and dreams it is when these needs are required to change that we lose track of who we are and become someone we are not. We lose interest in the relationship because of these changes and we get frustrated with being in a position where we feel trapped. If being you is all about being a top notch cook, cleaner or both it is ok because it is who you are and what you want to be.
Being you, also involves encouraging your partner to do the same by empowering them to be themselves. Inspire them to be their own person free from constraints of preconceived perceptions that one has to change to be accepted by another. Provide opportunities to work and play together. Get involved with their interests if they ask you to join in. Be reciprocal with your activities asking them to share what makes you happy. Share your thoughts and dreams and invite them to share theirs, you may be surprised to find there are similarities that you both have.
Keep the communication channels open, listen to what is being communicated and address whatever needs to be addressed. Love being the person you are and love your partner for who he or she is.
The best wife/husband is the one who can say “I am free to be me!”
Author Steve Boddey